Okay - so after two years of trying to teach my oldest daughter to play the piano without any success I finally caved and am paying a piano teacher. It has been working out great because she likes it, I am no longer involved and she has some accountability to practice ( i guess I don't count as accountability) HOWEVER - what am I supposed to do when this happens:
Me - do you need any help? ( after hearing her teacher say at the last lesson that she need to ask me for help if she needed it)
B - No
Me - okay ( and go to my room to finish folding laundry)
5 min later B - MMMMOOOOMMMMM!!!!!
Me - do you need help?
B - YYEEEESSSS!!!!
Me - you can keep the beat by counting 4 : 1...2...3..
B- I DONT WANT TO COUNT TO FOUR!!!! I DONT NEED YOUR HELP!!!!
Me- (dont say a word just walk away)
30 sec laterB- MMMMMOOOOMMM - I NEED HELP!!!!!!!Me- ( sit down next to her) how do you want me to help you?
B- I DONT KNOW -
Me - (start to play the song so she knows what it sounds like , w/o counting)
B- I DONT WANT TO HEAR YOU PLAY THE SONG - (and covers her ears)
Me - okay - you dont have to play it fast, you can start slow and then get faster after you learn it
B- I DONT WANT TO!!!
Me - ( now I am getting frustrated so I leave - again)
Long story short: after 20 more minutes and a couple more back and forths and hearing her get more frustrated and start to take it out on the piano keys I suggest that she needs to go take a break and calm down and she has a complete meltdown complete with doors slamming, hitting walls and shutters, arm slapping( her slapping mine as I close the piano)and yelling. So now she is sitting outside until she decides that she can be respectful to me and the house ( Can you tell I'm still frustrated)
Ending - she just opened the back door and said " Mom I am ready"
Me - Can you be respectful to me and the house?
B- (says nothing - just gives me the mad eye look and slams the door)
Uuummmm - Okay- so now what?